To be clear I'm not speaking about when I plug in headphones or connect via Bluetooth etc. What I want to do is disable the player from resuming where it left off. I don't mind that it remembers the last song played and it's position but I find it annoying that it just starts playing the song by itself. Sometimes this is a nice feature but then, if it cant be turned off I would like to request that this post be moved to the Feature Request section.
The built-in android music player (at least in android 4.2) has a party shuffle menu item from most screens that instantly started playing all songs in the library and shuffled them in a random order every time, so it never played the same song first everytime.